Why You Should Ask Before Throwing Things Away

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I like to clean around the house and keep things organized before they become big messes. Often times, I throw away, box up (for donation or storage), or recycle old stuff. I would say 99% of the time, my kids don't care what's been tossed out. That minuscule 1% of the time? Well, that 1% causes chaos in the house with unhappy kids. 

Incident #1 with son -

As I was folding laundry, I noticed a worn out tank top that, in my opinion, was too small for my son. So I threw it away. A few days later, my son asked if I'd seen a white tank while doing laundry. I told him where I put all his clean tanks. He came out and said he couldn't find the one his friend borrowed to him last week. Turns out, his best friend wears the same brand and color tank tops as my son but his friend wears a size smaller because he's shorter. I knew right away that tank top I threw away was his friend's and I got a big "WHAT??!!" when I told him what I did. So for the next half an hour, mother and son engaged in what and why questions.

Me: "Why were you wearing your friend's tank?"
       "Why didn't you tell me that your friend's tank top was in the laundry?"
       "Why did you borrow your friend's tank?"


Son: "What am I going to tell my friend?"
        "Why didn't you check with me?"

I ended up buying a new pack of tank tops to give back to the friend.

Incident #2 with eldest daughter -

I decided to clean out her drawers one day because there just too many things cluttered on her dresser. What I found in there drawers were mainly empty candy boxes, candy wrappers, broken crayons, dried out markers, and a bunch of other junk. I threw out practically everything and kept a few of the big items like her stationary set and pencil boxes. When my daughter came home from her outing with her aunt, she knew right away her room looked just a bit too orderly. She came rushing out and asked what happened to her stuff in the drawers. After I told her, her eyes welled up and all of a sudden, it started to pour.Yes, we ended up digging the trash bag so she could recover some of her stuff.

So now, I put things I want to throw away in a 'CHECK THIS' box so the kids and husband can look through it.

26 comments:

Lazy Pineapple said...

oh my...you went to do a good deed and got a sucker punch..ouch...

Savvy Gal said...

LOL... it happens sometimes.

TK said...

The 'Check This' box is a good idea..It also happened to me many times..

reanaclaire said...

what a good idea.. i was actually thinking of tidying our wardrobes too this weekend! :p

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ModernMom said...

:) Most excellent advice!

jen@odbt said...

I know what you mean. My daughter likes to keep every little thing and we've learned to hide stuff when we throw things out b/c she'll keep everything.

Ash said...

ooh how organised of you. we all learn from our mistakes. :)

regarding the swimming with kids, you can just stay around the shallow end or the kiddie's pool (easier for me as ash is just over 1 yr old but might be tougher on you as you might have older kids&kiddie's pool might be a no no for them - sorry! i dont know how old are your kids *bad bloggy friend*) OR join the swimming lessons with your kids. ;)

~ash's mum

Janie B said...

We live and learn.

AVCr8teur said...

You've come up with a good idea. I guess what they say is true..."one mom's junk is a one kid's treasure" or something like that.

Alicia said...

I can totally relate to this one! I've done this many times before!!

Erin said...

That is such a great idea! Let's hope they all check the box!

The hubs is usually the one that throws out MY stuff, or as he calls it "junk" and I get mad and tell him "don't touch my junk"

Ryhen said...

This sort of thing happened alot of times when I was a kid. I think this should be made into a universal law which every mom in the world should be made to follow. lol

Dora said...

Oh great so they have NO valid reasons to accuse/blame you later :-)

Serline said...

I've made the same boo-boo's with my hubby and kids several times ;-P Oh well, serve them right for being untidy...

Mr. Stupid said...

LOL. My brother used to collect pebbles and stones. My Mom found them in his room once and put it in the garden. They were all mixed up with the stones we already had!

Gratitude said...

It goes to show that what is junk to some, are probably rare gems to others! lolz ;)
+Ant+

Joey @ Big Teeth and Clouds said...

I have the same problem. The littlest scrap of paper is a five-year-olds treasure!

Autumn Belle @ KDP said...

I can relate to that too. We parents are still learning from our on-the-job experience, haha! Even computers have recyle bin where we can retrieve back our trash.

Cheryl said...

I have done plenty of cleaning out of three children's bureaus, closets and rooms...luckily I never threw out something that I shouldn't! I can certainly understand how the mix-up could occur and it was generous of you to replace the tank.

Liz said...

Ooh, that has to be hard. No mom wants to see their kids upset over something they did. YET, I would have done all the same things! :)

KidsDreamWork said...

Thanks for the sharing! I shall remember this when my boy is old enough to know to protest for me throwing away his stuff :)

Gina F said...

Great idea for the "CHECK THIS" box. When I tidy up my daughter's room and she finds some of her things missing she writes a note on her door KEEP OUT MOM!

Gina
motherof1princessand2princes.blogspot.com

Veronica Lee said...

Whenver things are missing in the house, I always get the blame 'cos I'm the only one who's tossing things into the trash can!!

I'm going with your idea!!

Happy Friday!

Julie from Momspective said...

Potentially totally off topic but I just saw a shirt my 5YO has and I LOVE IT and it fits me so I'm keeping it. Yep.

Priscilla said...

The check box is a good idea! I usually throw my kids stuff away quickly before they have a chance to root through them and retain 90% of the junk! Luckily they haven't noticed so far...!

myorii said...

Wow, you totally sound like my mom in this post. When I was growing up, my mom always had the same habit of throwing things away that was of some "importance" to someone in the family. Often times, it would be something that belonged to my brother or my dad. There were so many arguments created because of it that she just stopped throwing things away and just stores them in a box that she labels "junk." If no one claims them or asks about them after several weeks, she tosses them.