Two Girls - Different Weight

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When my eldest daughter was a toddler, her pediatrician was very concerned about her weight. So concerned that she had me record a journal of what I was feeding my little girl. She talked to me about child obesity which can lead to adult obesity and all the ramblings about health and nutrition. She pointed that my daughter's weight was in the upper percentile according pediatric growth chart. Anyways, long story short, she put my daughter on a diet plan which included diluting the milk to a 50/50 ratio - 50% milk and 50% water, lots of fruits and vegies, less carbs like rice, bread, and crackers.

My two girls are 4 years apart. With my second daughter, she was and still is underweight according to the pediatric growth chart. When my little one was 2, the doctor suggested that I add butter to my daughter's food to fatten her up. I think my disgusted facial expression hinted was very obvious as the doctor immediately suggested that I introduce more fattier food into my daughter's diet to bring her weight up to average.

My mom babysat my kids because I was working then and of course she didn't follow through with the doctor's recommendations. She thought diluting the milk and refraining the eldest from eating was the most absurd thing she'd ever heard and putting butter in food to fatten up a baby was the dumbest thing a doctor can recommend.

Both of my girls have opposite appetite. The eldest one can eat anything and she sure can eat! The youngest one is a picky eater and just nibbles. I'm constantly telling the eldest to stop eating and the youngest to eat more. My sister has a theory. She says that the eldest one is stealing food from her sister and that she would quickly eat her food first, then eat off from her sister. To understand why my sister thinks this way, in a nutshell, there's this auntie-niece rivalry going on between my sister and my eldest daughter. It's complicated but it's not as bad as it sounds. It's more of because when my eldest daughter came along, she was my parents' first granddaughter and because my dad favors girls over boys, my daughter was very spoiled and my sister was thrown off her golden pedestal. We've all heard of sibling rivalry, my sister created a new category, auntie-niece rivalry. Okay, I digressed a bit there. Well, lately, the eldest one has been feeding her sister and my little one has plumped up. Yesterday, she made sorbet sundaes for both of them to snack on in the afternoon despite me telling her just sorbet and no fancy extras.





16 comments:

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

Hi RoseBeLLe,

Being parents is really difficult especially when it comes to a child's meal. Parents are worried if their children don't eat much and become skinny and some other parents are worried that their children eat too much that leads to obesity.

It is very difficult to see a child eat a balance diet right?. They are either not interested in food or too curious about food until they want to eat everything.

And It is funny that your eldest child feed your younger child. Later your younger child will be addicted to food. About your mother? well...sometimes it is probably the way your mom was trained to raise a child before that she could not accept the doctor's recommendation. Hahaha

KN said...

Grandparents take pride and joy in taking care of their grandchildren so it's no wonder your mom disregarded the doc's reommendation. I think putting a toddler on a restricted diet is too far fetched. I wouldn't follow the advice either. The desserts look delicious.

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Mei Teng said...

Siblings don't necessarily look like each other and definitely may not weight the same too. I am the skinny one among my siblings.

TK said...

Same here..my son is overweight and eats just anything and everything while my daughter is a very fussy eater and only eats when she is really hungry or in the mood to eat. It's very hard for my son to lose weight. Doctor told me that if he can't lose weight at least i should make sure that he maintains the weight. Now it's been six month. I managed to make him maintain the weight.. I'm happy and it's a victory to me.. I really don't want my son to grow up obese

Cheryl said...

All three of my children were different types of eaters. I always made sure their meals were nutritious and varied and that they had healthy snacks. Its a challenging part of being a parent for sure!

Alicia said...

All my kids have such different eating habits too!

Love what they made! It's pretty and colorful!

Ebie said...

And cherry on top! That looks yummy!

I think writing down the food we take is a gauge to cut back or add in our diet. But I do not do it....

AVCr8teur said...

Look at all those yummy toppings on the sorbet! As a kid, I used to be the picky eater. I was underweight and my doctor told my parents to feed me Half & Half cream! :O Now I eat almost anything so some kids can grow out of being picky eaters.

Padhu said...

Dear RoseBelle

Thanks for dropping by my blog .You have a lovely space here.You can try Yam mash without asafoetida .We add asafoetida/hing as it aids in digestion.

Hazel said...

oh,we can give them more vege and fruit...like Nelson seldom eats vege

RoseBelle said...

@Padhu - Thank you so much for getting back to me. I was about to buy asafoetida online because it comes up in quite a few of other Indian recipes.

Buckeroomama said...

Both of mine have different eating habits and different tastes in food, too. J prefers more western cooking, but Z definitely prefers Asian cooking. :)

KidsDreamWork said...

It was so funny to read about the auntie-niece rivalry, and also about your elder girl feeding your younger one. Glad that now your younger one plumped up! Both my boys are those underweight type too in the pediatric growth chart and that's why I started bneto-ing. Not easy to be parents yeah. :)

nice A said...

We have similar experience, sis. My eldest was so thin when she was about 2-8 years old that I had to consult the doctor if she had primary complex or any problem. Luckily she was just very slim but seldom got sick. Her younger brother was her opposite. He has been overweight since he was a toddler but good thing is he's taller than his age so the doctor says it's not alarming as he has proportionate height and weight. Sibling rivalry used to be an issue but not on food as the brother had to receive a favor from his sister when he had to eat anything she could not finish, LOL.
Btw, yes, I got both your comments. It's only that I wasn't able to approve my received comments for a couple of days as I was out-of-town for a retreat. Thanks for always dropping by.

Wendy said...

Wow, butter??!!

I think as long as they have good habits, the eating thing all evens out. My younger one is really into food. She's my food partner. From the age of 3, we've enjoyed sushi, Indian food, etc. She definitely has the potential to be a chubby bubby, and has always been even beyond the 99th percentile. Her papers always say "1" instead of any percentile. Anyway, I definitely need to teach her good habits b/c she has the potential to misuse food. Aside from that, I'm not worrying.

Too bad about the auntie/neice rivalry. :(