The Kind of Phone Call You Dread

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My ex-coworker left a voicemail on my phone in the wee hour this morning informing me that one of other peers' husband passed away while vacationing in Las Vegas. Alas, these are the kinds of phone calls I hate to get but, it's life reality that we all have to face. What makes this news particularly more depressing is the fact that this friend of mine, Brenda, really looked forward to retirement to spend quality time with her husband, who is 20 years her senior. She had waited for the longest time to stop working and retire to enjoy life with her hubby.

Brenda's husband was a retired U.S. marine. Her husband was such a romantic and loving man. He would wake up and make his wife and only daughter breakfast every single morning. He'd call during lunch time to have a brief chat with his wife every day. He planned all the family vacations. I can only imagine how much Brenda will miss this family routine. I also think about the awful truth that sometimes the one thing that you yearn for the most is given to you for only a short period of time to enjoy.

I remember Brenda always talked about retirement and all these wonderful places she and her hubby were going to visit and all these things they planned to do. I was so happy for her when she was able to retire. She was just glowing and her happiness just beamed out so contagiously. You can't help but to feel happy for her.

I've been thinking a lot today. We all plan for the future and we put off doing things right now thinking that we will have time and perhaps money to do what we wanted in the future. Just remember to enjoy the ride, stop and smell the roses, enjoy the beauty of life as it presents to you in the moment, and don't let your goal from point A to point B takes precedence in that you forget to enjoy living.

A memorable quote I have is by Christian Furchtegott Gellert: Live as you will have wished to have lived when you are dying.

Have a safe and wonderful weekend!

17 comments:

Cheryl said...

Oh how very sad about the co-worker's husband's death. Life doesn't seem fair at times. Your words about making sure to enjoy our lives is so true. Have a nice weekend.

LifeMelodies said...

How horrible! This is a good post of self reflection. I always set goals for myself, always thinking about the future. This makes me stop or slow down a bit to take it easy.

Mr. Stupid said...

Oh, that's really sad. I am really sorry for Brenda. It might take her time to adjust to an environment without her husband around. Hope God gives her all the courage and Happiness from now on.
Have a great weekend Rose...:)

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

It is sad to hear of his passing. May he rest in peace.

Bananazą“• said...

Sorry to hear the sad news. A good and meaningful quote to reflect upon. Thanks

Superman said...

Sad to knew that. Sometimes life is just so unpredictable. I think we should walk the talk and enjoy first rather than kept planning for plans. Live everyday to the fullest.

Gratitude said...

Always sad to hear of a person leaving the partner behind. I do hope your colleague is taking it well now. Always remember what my mom said that the later one to go in a marriage will be the one to suffer due to the loneliness.
+Ant+

Mei Teng said...

Live one day at the time. But that doesn't mean you don't plan ahead. Just don't plan too far ahead. Life can be uncertain.

Rose Belle said...

@Cheryl - Thanks Cheryl.

@LifeMelodi - Setting goals is good but don't plan too far ahead where you sacrifice everything today in hopes of achieving your future goals.

@Mr. Stupid - I hope she will find the strength and peace to go through this tough difficult time in her life too.

A Vecchioni said...

Sorry to hear about your friend's husband. That's so sad. I used to work with an older fellow who was still at it 10 or 15 years past retirement. One time we were talking about how unpredictable the future can be and he says, yea well it's good not to stress out about it, but I'll tell you one thing, at my age you won't catch me buying any green bananas.

Ryhen | Mind Power said...

Sad story but great message, Rose. I think you nailed the essence of living in the present. It really is upsetting to get this kind of news, and to be even in your friend's position, but I'm sure that her husband has gone off to a better place. Maybe he has served his purpose. We, on the other hand, are still here trying to figure things out.

Peace and respect,
Ryhen

levian said...

oh gosh, may he rest in peace. i absolutely agree. "live like you are dying" is one song on the radio that i enjoyed most lately. many dislike listening n feel that it is not good to think like that, especially about death. but it is one thing that can have us feeling no regrets throughout the journey. it is all about having the correct attitude. making full use of what we have n own. :)

Dora said...

That's really a sad news to your friend but as you said, it's a message to us "smell the flowers while we can"! :-)

Rose Belle said...

@Willie - You have your wi-fi working now?

@Bananaz - Thanks, the quote is one of my favorites.

@Superman - I agree. We all should walk the walk and talk the talk. Enjoy life and take it easy yet always make sure we plan a bit ahead too.

Gratitude - Your mom is right Aton. The one left behind suffers more which is why I'd rather go first than to take the blunt of loneliness and heartache.

@Mei - Yes, we all should always plan ahead cos you may never know what will hit us down the road but just don't lose sight of your present when you plan for the future.

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Rose Belle said...

@Anthony - I see what your friend was saying about the green banana. I was a little lost there. Makes sense, you don't know how much time you got left or what tomorrow will hold, better enjoy it now than wait.

@Ryhen - Thanks Ryhen. I feel the same. Those who lived a fulfilled life like Brenda's husband and passed on are in a much better place while we are suffering here

@Levian - I have never heard of that song, "live like you are dying". I know many people don't think it's auspicious to live like you are dying but I think it's only when you do, you start to live life more purposefully and not waste yourself.

@Dora - Yes! Slow down a bit and enjoy the beauty of nature!

Rita said...

Oh, so sorry to hear of your friend's husband passing on. Just last week, I attended an acquaintance's funeral. He has just retired a couple of years ago and was just starting to spend quality time with his family.
It made me realise that we don't need to retire to do that...we have to make time for our love ones and try to live life fullest.
Yes, I agree, take time to smell the flowers...
Have a good weekend, Rose Belle.

Rose Belle said...

@Rita - Well it certainly makes me rethink about my priorities. I sometimes put off doing things now...erm, maybe it's not a good idea to wait til retirement to go on that great vacation or to start on those close to the heart projects.